- Posted on Monday, 23 February 2015
Ben and Amanda had quite a clear vision for their evening wedding reception at The St. Regis Singapore - they wanted an elegant affair which reflected them as a couple and used shades of ivory, cream, lavender and violet. With the help of their planners from Chere: Weddings and Parties and floral designer Hari from Boenga, the ballroom was transformed with vintage street lamps, trees, chandeliers, an intricate stage backdrop, and arrangements embellished with glass and crystals, all bathed in a cool purple hue and captured by Yu Hsin of Tinydot Photography.
How did you meet?
“We met at work when Amanda started doing her internship. Although we did not work directly with each other, we chatted daily and fell in love. I was attracted to her because she was cheeky and talkative. Amanda says she was attracted to the twinkle in my eye, even though I had initially came across to her as ‘no-nonsense’. From there, our relationship took shape and blossomed over dinners, suppers, beach jaunts and travels. Because we live so near each other, it was easy to meet, and we did, often. Almost every night in fact.” ~ Ben
What was the proposal like?
“We were in Melbourne, driving along the Great Ocean Road. I wanted to propose at the Twelve Apostles, which was where we took our first trip together. Knowing it was getting dark and that we might not head that far after all, I had to think of a Plan B. Luckily, and coincidentally, Amanda pointed out a scenic spot, and asked me to pull over for some photographs. She wanted me to take portraits of her against the scenery. As she was looking off-camera, I took steps towards her. When she realised how close I was, I slowly got down on one knee and took out a ring box. She said, "Oh my God!" and teared. Of course she said yes after, haha!” ~ Ben
“It was funny because he'd told me before he would not propose on a holiday as it would be too predictable. I was also not expecting it because we were on a road trip - no make up, messy hair etc.” ~ Amanda
Tell us about your wedding theme, and did you undertake any DIY projects?
“We wanted something elegant and chic for the evening, and something more rustic for our church ceremony. Also, we wanted it to be very personal, something very 'us'. Our mood board consisted of ivory, cream, lavender and violet hues. As someone who loves to craft, I DIY-ed some things - from the instagram hashtag signs to the wedding favours. We think it takes a village to hold a wedding! Over the months, family and friends helped to draw, cut, glue, paste and basically make possible the ideas we had in mind.
Two things we particularly loved making: 1) The mini-drawstring bags containing a tea bag, hand-stamped with a portrait of us, for each dinner guest. 2) Laying out our own pre-wedding photo albums on Artifact Uprising. We had two photo albums - the first contained photos from our pre-wedding shoot in Sweden; the other had pictures from our travels from over the years we were dating. We displayed both albums at dinner.
In terms of decor, I knew I wanted the church aisle to be lined with candles and flowers. Boenga did an amazing job for us! For the evening, we wanted the ballroom to be bathed in purple light to set the mood. Our planners, Chere Weddings, helped to source for a lighting designer. We left much of the evening's decor to the imagination of Hari from Boenga, who took our breaths away with his ideas. Ben's only request was that he wanted vintage street lamps as part of the decor. Hari built two trees from scratch, brought in chandeliers and did an intricate laser-cut-ish backdrop for our stage. The table decor was also exactly what we wanted, consisting of tall and low floral arrangements, embellished with glass and crystals. Many of our guests even brought home a floral arrangement!” ~ Amanda
Do you have any interesting stories to share with us?
“We chose to have our pre-wedding shoot in Sweden because we wanted the effect of the European sun in our photos. Amanda had done an exchange in Sweden for six months and told me all about how beautiful the place was. Our close friends, Rebecca and Shuli, also took some of our casual photos around Singapore, which we displayed at our wedding.
The proposal was a total surprise, as I did not tell anyone about it at all. None of Amanda's close friends or family knew about it until Amanda told them over SMS.
As part of the proposal, I had a tattoo done on my arm. It's the silhouette of two cats (the more rounded one being me haha and the slender one being Amanda) gazing lovingly at the moon together. Amanda is a cat lover and had 4 in her home. She influenced me to start loving cats and now we share 2 more at my place.” ~ Ben
Any tips or wedding advice for other brides and grooms-to-be?
“1) Try to stay calm, and stop fretting. There seems pressure to make sure this once-in-a-lifetime event is perfect, but the surprises will amaze you. Also, learn to delegate work to willing family or friends.
2) Make sure you follow up regularly with your vendors. Check that they know what you want, and that things are progressing well. We recommend all my friends to engage a wedding planner, if possible. Our big day went incredibly well partly because of our team of planners from Chere Weddings.
3) Prepare yourselves emotionally too. Ben and I really loved our marriage preparation course, even though we were slightly nonchalant about it at first. We realised that we had already discussed most of the topics before they were brought up at the course, but we really loved the sharing sessions with other couples where we got to hear real-life love stories and how to make love work!” ~ Amanda
What do you think makes a strong marriage?
“I think a strong marriage works on limitless unconditional love, lots of patience, and a hearty laugh to greet all of life's surprises. One important thing I've learnt is that while love and kindness is a decision, there are grouchy and angry days when you don't feel like loving. But you can always choose to do the counter-intuitive. I think that breeds love and reciprocity.” ~ Amanda
“The most important thing is to start thinking of you two as one now, rather than two individuals living together. A subset of this is to make sure your wife is your utmost priority. Always make her feel like she's No. 1 and your home will be a happy one. As long as guys know that the wife is always right, things somehow always work out fine.” ~ Ben
Congratulations on your marriage, Ben and Amanda! May it be every bit as beautiful as your wedding!
Photography: Yu Hsin, Tinydot Photography
Venue: The St. Regis Singapore
Wedding Dresses: Francis Cheong
Bride’s Shoes: Yves Saint Laurent
Bridesmaid Dresses: Warehouse
Bridesmaid Bouquets: DIY
Groom’s Outfits: CYC The Custom Shop
Groom’s Shoes: Salvatore Ferragamo
Jewellery: Cartier, The Canary Diamond Company, Tiffany & Co.
Hair & Makeup: Kenneth Lee
Flowers & Décor: Boenga
Car Décor: Heaven in a Wild Flower
Wedding Planning: Chere: Weddings And Parties
Wedding Favours: DIY mini drawstring bags with tea, tea cups from The St. Regis Singapore
Wedding Cake: The St. Regis Singapore
Catering: Lavish Dine Catering Pte Ltd
Entertainment: Jack & Rai
Photo Booth: Hello Forever
Videography: Yang and Zech, Substance Films