- Posted on Saturday, 02 June 2018
“What you will remember is how you felt, and how you made everyone feel. The wedding will be beautiful because it reflects the love you share, not because of the stuff you fill it up with.” ~ Bennett and Jasmine
Truer words were never spoken! Beneath a beautiful circular chandelier of fresh florals and greenery which florist bride Jasmine of Whiff made, the happy couple exchanged vows and swayed together in their first dance. Their wedding at FOC Sentosa, captured by Jonathan Ong, was more date night than formal party, and Jasmine and Bennett ensured every guest felt just some of the affection they have for each other in a myriad of thoughtful ways, including writing personal messages for each of their 70 guests.
How did you meet?
“We knew of each other in Bridge Church, Melbourne, but we weren't looking. Funnily, in a confluence of lives, we then met in Kingdomcity Singapore. We connected on the basis that we were both from Bridge, and started talking because we surprised a friend with macarons, Old Chang Kee and coconut water.
Through those months we found ourselves talking to each other more. At a screening of Big Hero 6 at our previous Connect Group, we ended up talking the entire time to each other on the sofa about life. We met up for dinners from time to time and always found ourselves still in the restaurant while the staff was mopping the floor around us. Fast forward to the lead up to Christmas, where Bennett was tasked to help Jasmine out with decor. We connected over the entire process, shopping for and setting up the Christmas tree, threading baubles and mounting filament bulbs. A happy, glittery blur.
We knew something was brewing, and after a Monday prayer night, we spoke of our feelings and decided together that we would take two months to pray, fast and get to know each other better and locked in 29th February 2016 in our calendars as the day to meet and decide if we were to pursue it. On that day, with jittery hearts we met for Roadhouse burgers. After a good 3-hour talk, we decided, amidst more staff mopping floors around us, that yes, we wanted to be with each other!” ~ Bennett and Jasmine
How did Bennett propose?
“We took a trip to Melbourne together to make new memories in a place we both loved so much. He secretly planned for a proposal at Lavandula Lavender farm, the place where I wanted to bring him to. Coordinating with the farm’s owners, my best friend and also a dear friend, Carina, who is a photographer in Melbourne! As Bennett pretended to be led by Jasmine to the lavender farm, he asked between rows of Japanese maple trees, with a card (our monthly ritual), on bended knee, and Jasmine said, ‘Yes!’” ~ Bennett and Jasmine
Photos by Carina Sze Photography
What was your theme/style/color palette?
“Having always had weekly date nights on Tuesday, we were certain we wanted a Tuesday wedding and to invite our closest friends to join us on the biggest date night of our lives (so far). We wanted everyone to experience what we experience on a weekly/daily basis, more like a warm, cozy dinner that was about good people, and fantastic conversations over good food. We got them to dress as they would for a date, something comfortable but still made them feel beautiful!
We went with colours and patterns we found in our wardrobe and rooms - shades of light/dusty blue, midnight, sage, ecru, forest, stripes, natural textures, and rose gold. Something that was easy and organic, but still somewhat celebratory! We worked on one main focal piece - the floral chandelier and everything happened under it like our vows, and first dance. We kept everything else natural and set the guests up for a relaxing night to feel loved and thought of. To lighten things up during the cocktail hour, there was a live paella station, free flow sangria, film cameras for them to capture moments (resulting in lots of funny photos) and also a smashing time with a piñata!” ~ Bennett and Jasmine
How did you decorate your venues and did you undertake any DIY projects? What sort of wedding favors did you opt for, and why?
“We did almost everything ourselves! Being a florist, Jasmine headed all the florals, aided by Desmond of Dedronfc and an army of friends! The metal that made the 2m-diameter ring hoop was from Jasmine's family's steel warehouse and fabricated into a hoop by her brother's best friend's workshop. Ben then delivered the ring to the venue with the help of a friend! The flowers throughout the day featured olives, which were part of the bouquet Ben proposed with, and also pampas grass, in light beige, almost the same colour as our dog, Kosmo. It felt as though Kosmo was there with us in the evening!
Photo holders were crafted from coloured clay to resemble mountains and rocks. Our signs, programs, escort cards, and labels for the candles were designed and printed by Jasmine, and the wooden card/gift box and escort card holders were stained by us as well.
Every guest was greeted with a vellum envelope holding a personalised card. The vellum envelope had the guest's name inscribed on it to be used as their place card and each guest's card had a phrase that was either a memory shared with them or our pet name for them. We wrote personal messages to each of them, and that brought a huge smile to their faces! We also handmade soy candles with essential oils (eucalyptus, lavender and peppermint), and named them, “Melbourne Date Night”. Eucalyptus and lavender were reminiscent of our trip to Melbourne where Ben proposed at a lavender farm and where our lives first converged and peppermint represented our favourite tea we drink at night.
Being huge cheese lovers, we had to have cheese on our special day. The wedding cake was made up of four wheels of cheese, one of which was our favourite Kapiti Kikorangi Blue, all gifted by a dear friend, and embellished with figs, berries and herbs!” ~ Bennett and Jasmine
Do you have any tips or wedding advice for other brides and grooms to-be?
“We ran into some issues with the initial choice of chair rental vendor and we decided to go with Xoxo instead, which ended up being the best decision! Farrah understood our concerns and was so patient, she went above and beyond to assure us and ensure that we were happy with our choice to go with them. So don’t be afraid to follow your instincts, sometimes the change is a good thing! Surrounding yourself with vendors you can trust is super important. It saves you from unnecessary grief and trouble on the day.
Also, keep building the foundation of your marriage. It’s a wedding, it’s just one day! The marriage is what you will carry forward for the rest of your lives. The bumps you meet while wedding planning will be insignificant on the day when all that matters is the person you’re saying your vows to! As much as everyone has a vision of what the wedding should be like, the best moments are always the ones least engineered. What you will remember is how you felt, and how you made everyone feel. The wedding will be beautiful because it reflects the love you share, not because of the stuff you fill it up with.” ~ Bennett and Jasmine
Any tips or advice on what you think makes a strong marriage?
“’Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly and love extravagantly.’ That was the verse for our wedding and also what we try to build our marriage on. To always speak life to each other, to constantly choose each other, to laugh with each other and to have each other’s backs regardless of what happens. To hold space and be that safe place for each other and to always welcome each other home with a giant hug and kiss.” ~ Bennett and Jasmine
Congratulations on your marriage, Bennett and Jasmine! May it be every bit as beautiful as your wedding!
Other weddings captured by Jonathan Ong
Photographers Samuel and Ting's Bohemian Wedding in the Woods
Be Mine: Sayher and Amelia's Industrial Chic Wedding in Melbourne
Anthony and Rachel’s Beautiful Blossom Branch Wedding
Rustic Luxe Wedding at Enderong Resort, Malaysia: Jason + Kim
Joel and Pam's Handcrafted Wedding at Food for Thought
Number of Guests: 70
Venue: FOC Sentosa
Photography: Jonathan Ong
Bride’s Wedding Dress: BHLDN
Bride’s Shoes: Sam Edelman (morning) and Anthropologie (evening)
Bridesmaids' Dresses: Bridesmaids' own (The Thread Theory, Portmans, Asos)
Groom’s Outfit: Sze Sze Tailors
Groom’s Shoes: CustomMade
Groomsmen’s Shirts: Asos
Hair and Makeup: Airin Lee
Décor, Planning/Styling: Whiff
Flowers: Whiff and assisted by Desmond, Dedron Floral Creation
Ribbons: Eirene Artisan
Jewellery: Lucy & Mui Jewelry
Stationery/Paper Goods: Karen Hutchison
Cake: Kapiti Cheese Wheels from The Cellar Door
Catering: Alan, travellingfoodies (Nonya Kueh)
Videography: Douglas Fun and Teck Kuan, The Next Chapter Film
Chair Rental: Xoxo & Co.