- Posted on Tuesday, 19 May 2015
Varian and Rui’s DIY-lightful ceremony was dressed up in soothing shades of blue and green in the raw, industrial space of Kilo Lounge. Theirs was a fresh and wallet-friendly wedding (with a beautiful handmade paper rosette backdrop almost stealing the show from their sunny smiles) captured by Xinning of alone-together.
How did you meet?
“We are both alumni of Columbia University in NYC - he graduated from the engineering school in 2001 and I graduated from the college in 2010. Although we first met in 2006 before I left for New York, it was only after I moved back to Singapore in 2010 and he invited me to a Jose James gig at his bar that we started seeing each other seriously.” ~ Rui
What was the proposal like?
“Varian proposed late in the evening at Diner, in Brooklyn. We were on holiday last April, hanging out with old friends in New York. It was just about time for dessert when he left his seat across from me to sit beside me, and he took my hand and played with the ring on my left middle finger. Suddenly, he seemed to be crouching on the floor next to the table and I had no idea what he was doing. Having had a couple of drinks and fearing he’d drop my ring in the restaurant, I said, “Hey give me back my ring!” to which he obliged, and for the next few moments I was wondering why the ring I now had on looked different and didn’t fit on the same finger – then I was like OHHH WOAH wait a minute and it dawned on me that he had just proposed with his late grandmother’s ring. It came as a total shock to me.” ~ Rui
What was your theme and colour palette?
“Neither of us really had a specific theme in mind, we just wanted things to be relaxed and easy. It was a city wedding after all, and we felt going too rustic or floral would be overkill. Plus we were very happy that our chosen venue had some character of its own. So we settled on blue and green because we thought such a colour scheme would be fresh and pretty.” ~ Rui
How did you decorate your venues? Did you undertake any DIY projects?
“We went cheap and chic and hoped that the colour scheme would unite all the pieces into a cohesive whole. We did quite a lot of DIY but it was all very simple stuff - wholesale flowers, some paper bunting, a store-bought ‘JUST MARRIED’ banner and oversize 3D initials. The biggest thing we did for the wedding was the backdrop of paper rosettes - it took about a month to make 50 rosettes and a day to assemble. All you need is pretty paper, a giant stapler, time and perseverance…It was so special to enter the venue after our families and friends decorated it, it all turned out beautiful and we felt so loved stepping into that fresh turquoise space.” ~ Rui
Do you have any special stories to share relating to your big day?
“The ring exchange almost didn’t happen! Instead of gently untying the knot holding the wedding bands together, Var somehow turned it into a dead knot. So the ceremony was suspended for what felt like an eternity while he unpicked the tangle, with gentle encouragement from the officiant. It was tense but absurdly hilarious at the same time.” ~ Rui
Do you have any tips or wedding advice for other brides and grooms to-be?
“The best advice that came from a good friend was: ‘Everything goes by really, really fast. So don't spend any second being critical or worried about stuff. No one will notice that the tablecloth is crooked. This is one of those moments in life to let yourself be and enjoy. Every once in a while, take a breath to just step back to watch the room. It will be full of so many of the most important people in your life, and they will have all come out just to share this moment with you. How amazing is that! You are loved. Bask in that, and celebrate it with the ones you love.’” ~ Rui
What makes a strong marriage?
“We’re definitely still working on that every day. But so far, trust, a sense of humour, honest communication and attempts at empathy are taking us in a good direction. Seeing yourself as part of a bigger whole is also important, it’s no longer just me me me but the two of us.” ~ Rui
Congratulations on your marriage, Varian and Rui! May it be every bit as beautiful as your wedding!
Venue: Kilo Lounge
Photography: Xinning, alone-together
Wedding Dress: Saja Wedding
Bride’s Shoes: Seychelles
Groom’s Outfit: Sze Sze Tailor
Groom’s Shoes: Vans
Hair & Makeup: Kizuki and LIM
Flowers: GG Flowers
Cake: Edith Patisserie
Catering: Kilo Lounge